Polyamory
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I was 22 when I first saw the movie “Your Friends and Neighbors,” directed by the often controversial yet always provocative and beautiful Neil LaBute. In short, the movie focuses on two couples and surrounding characters in an exploration of infidelity, the consequences of such, and the different dynamics that lead couples to turn away from each other in the first place.
BOOK DESCRIPTION
Attachment theory has entered the mainstream, but most discussions focus on how we can cultivate secure monogamous relationships. What if, like many people, you’re striving for secure, happy attachments with more than one partner?
Polyamorous psychotherapist Jessica Fern breaks new ground by extending attachment theory into the realm of consensual nonmonogamy. Using her nested model of attachment and trauma, she expands our understanding of how emotional experiences can influence our relationships. Then, she sets out six specific strategies to help you move toward secure attachments in your multiple relationships.
Polysecure is both a trailblazing theoretical treatise and a practical guide. It provides non-monogamous people with a new set of tools to navigate the complexities of multiple loving relationships, and offers radical new concepts that are sure to influence the conversation about attachment theory.
Jessica Fern (20230). Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Non-non-monogamy. London: Scribe Publications. Softcover. xv+268p. ISBN-13: 978-1-914484-95-7.
Can you really be a shy, exhibitionistic, socially anxious slut all at the same time? Twenty years into her marriage, Kat and her husband faced head-on the great underlying fear of most monogamous people: My partner wants to have sex with other people. For them, that truth led to a rollercoaster of new sexual and romantic adventures. After starting things off with a fun and friendly threesome, this couple explore ethical non-monogamy through swinging, casual sex, group sex, solo dating, and eventually stumble into polyamory. Kat Stark tells the story of her first three years in non-monogamy, and how her life and relationship(s) evolved; from the dirty, dirty sex to the heartbreak and back again, without glossing over the parts where she effed it right up. Along the way she discovers squirting orgasms, plays with all the awesome sex toys she can get her hands (and other body parts) on, and comes to a far deeper understanding about how her brain—and heart—work. Come on this very sexy journey; where asking is the key to getting what you want, and where rejecting the shame and associated with being a sexually audacious woman is the gateway to becoming the truest version of oneself.
Kat Stark (12/0/2017). Yelling in Pasties: The West Coast Confesion of an Anxious Slut. Hump and Circumstance. Softcover. 308p. ISBN-13: 978-19468776102.
