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Ηρακλής Α. Σίμος Sex 27 Ιανουάριος 2024

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Ηρακλής Α. Σίμος Sex 23 Ιανουάριος 2024

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SOS: Τα δύο λάθη που απειλούν την ευαίσθητη περιοχή

Ηρακλής Α. Σίμος Sex 16 Ιανουάριος 2024

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How to sext better by Anna Iovine on mashable.com, January 2, 2024

Ηρακλής Α. Σίμος Sex 15 Ιανουάριος 2024

Sexting, as Bo Burnham taught us, isn't sex — it's the next best thing.

I personally wouldn't go that far, but sexting can be pretty fun and downright hot if done right. The rub is that the act can also be an awkward minefield. Thoughts may cross your mind, like: Is now a good time to sext? What do I even say?

To answer these questions, we asked the sexperts. As it turns out, sexting (like sex itself) is an opportunity for you to liberate yourself, explore what you want in bed, and get to know your partner better.

The joy of sext

Sexting can benefit both you and your budding relationship (or hookup, or however you define it).

By sharing your desires and boundaries together, you're forging a deeper connection. Texting feels lower stakes than talking in person, especially if your relationship is new. Thus, it's a great option if you're shy about sex and have difficulty vocalizing what you want, said Casey Tanner, a certified sex therapist and sex expert for toy brand LELO.

Make no mistake, though: Sexting is legitimate communication, even if it's through screens.

Sending saucy messages back and forth can even be a kind of foreplay. It can build suspense and anticipation for when you see each other in-person next, even if that won't be anytime soon.

Consent first, as always

Before anything else, get consent — both about sexting in general and for individual sessions.

Ask yourself if you trust your partner enough to sext, advised Edwina Caito, a head writer at sex/sex toy blog BedBible. Decide if you're comfortable with the activity in the first place.

If yes, Tanner offered more questions to self-reflect: Is your style more flirty, raunchy, or suggestive? Are you OK sending nudes, and if so, what body parts do you want to photograph?

Have conversations about these boundaries before your first roll around in the digital hay. Set ground rules, said Caito, whether they be time-related — such as, don't send nudes before 6 p.m. when someone may be at work — or about what kind of media and messages you will and won't send.

You can even set a boundary for which messaging services you prefer to use to sext. Apps like Snapchat and Signal have features like disappearing chats, and the former sends a notification when the other person screenshots your messages. Alternatively, turn on Instagram's vanish mode for the same features.

As sexuality educator Jamie J. LeClaire wrote for sex wellness shop Unbound's blog, set an expectation for language used in sexts, too. If you're uncomfortable with some words — say ones that describe genitalia — tell your partner, and encourage them to share any words they dislike in turn.

Furthermore, consent at one time doesn't extend to every time. Always make sure it's OK to send through a naughty text or photo before doing it. A tip from Unbound is having a go-to emoji that serves as a way to ask, "Is now a good time for you to receive some smut?"

And never, ever share messages or other media that a partner sent to you (unless they ask you to, that is).

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Ηρακλής Α. Σίμος Sex 15 Ιανουάριος 2024

https://www.bodyandsoul.com.au/relationships/sex/lovehoney-rose-sex-toy-orgasm/news-story/c3c3fe2224e1ceb0f44da5822aa3acc0

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Ηρακλής Α. Σίμος Sex 12 Ιανουάριος 2024

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Ηρακλής Α. Σίμος Sex 11 Ιανουάριος 2024

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How to have sober sex by Anna Iovine on mashable.com

Ηρακλής Α. Σίμος Sex 06 Ιανουάριος 2024

Dry January is in full swing, and with it comes a newfound soberness to usually tipsy activities. You may find yourself dating while sober, which is one thing — but what about sober sex?

Alcohol loosens inhibitions and mutes our emotions, including anxiety. If you're used to having sex under the influence, doing it while sober can feel…terrifying. But why is that, and how can we have sober sex?

Why we have sex while drunk

Sex brings out our deepest vulnerabilities, said Casey Tanner, certified sex therapist and expert for sex toy brand LELO, whether it's with a new partner or someone we've known for decades. We might worry about how we look, about our "performance," and about when we're going to orgasm, to name a few concerns. Unsurprisingly, these worries prevent us from enjoying sex or maybe even initiating it, said Tanner.

Alcohol, meanwhile, turns the volume down on anxieties that come up before or during sex. This can feel like a relief, Tanner continued. "[People] might find that when tipsy, they tap into a more daring or relaxed sexual version of themselves that is difficult to access sober," they explained. There's a reason alcohol is called "liquid courage."

In the long run, however, using alcohol before sex habitually can leave you feeling out of touch with yourself and your partners once you sober up, Tanner said.

Physically, you may not be tuned-in to what your body needs, like lube. Mentally, you may remember having hot, consensual sex, but not the details. You may even internalize the belief that you're only "good at sex" after drinking, which could lead to less intimacy and initiation in the long run.

Benefits of sober sex

Alcohol acts as "social lubricant" by quieting down nerves one may feel in a public setting. The problem is, "when we numb the bad, we also numb the good," said Heather Lowe, certified recovery coach from the International Center for Addiction and Recovery Education (ICARE) and founder of wellness company Ditched the Drink. This means that alcohol dilutes the senses, so while you may be less nervous, you'll also feel less sensation.

When you're sober, however, you feel it all — literally.

Sober sex allows us to be more in-tuned with our bodies and our partner's, Tanner said. When we have sex sober, "we stop compartmentalizing sex to a particular mind-state, and build confidence in our ability to access sensuality more authentically."

Intimacy will be greater while sober than if you're drunk and going through the motions, Lowe said.

How to have sober sex

Transitioning from tipsy/drunk sex to sober sex may not be immediately gratifying, said Tanner. That's okay.

Feel the feelings, Lowe advised. Accept and allow emotions that come up instead of fighting them. This practice ideally starts outside of the bedroom. "The most important thing anyone can do in any journey — but especially an alcohol-free journey — is to spend just a few minutes a day with yourself, in your own breath, and paying attention to you," Lowe said.

This is called mindfulness, which can look like a guided meditation or just closing your eyes and paying attention to your breath. Thoughts are going to pop up, and that's completely normal; bring your focus back to the sensations in your body.

You can do this when you're alone, but it's also possible while surrounded by people. If you're at a bar, for instance, you can take a few minutes to notice what's going on in your body, rather than what's happening around you.

You can experiment with mindful sex either partnered or solo first. Pay attention to your senses, and focus on your breath and how you feel. Just like regular mindfulness, your brain will produce thoughts; that's normal. Guide yourself back to your breath and body.

"It may take some time to 'get out of your head' and fully let go during sex...if it does, this is okay," said Helen Burkitt, senior sexual health and contraception nurse at SH:24, and Emily Jackson, social media executive at SH:24, a digital sexual health service in partnership with the UK's National Health Service (NHS).

Being more aware can be both helpful and anxiety provoking, said Tanner. "You may not be used to hearing your breath, sensing a partner’s mood, or noticing the smells and tastes the way you do sober," they said. "Rather than judging these new experiences as positive or negative, you can use your sobered-up five senses to actually stay more present."

The reality is, sex is awkward, at least some of the time. It doesn't look like how it's portrayed in movies or porn.

The reality is, sex is awkward, at least some of the time. It doesn't look like how it's portrayed in movies or porn. Emotions will come up when you're sober and about to have sex (or during it).

In the moment, you can tell your partner how you're feeling, Lowe suggested. No matter what, though, approach yourself with compassion and curiosity.

"Good sex is paying attention to yourself," Lowe said. When you're able to pay attention, you can discover more about yourself and your partner.

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Ηρακλής Α. Σίμος Sex 31 Δεκέμβριος 2023

Μία μπαργούμαν σε ένα σεξ κλαμπ του Μανχάταν αποκαλύπτει τα πιο σκοτεινά, πιο βρώμικα μυστικά του χώρου – από την πελατεία των αστυνομικών μέχρι τους…. φύλακες ασφαλείας που λειτουργούν ως… «καρφιά». Η ανώνυμη εργαζόμενη πρόσφερε μια ματιά μέσα στο μυστικό άντρο της ανομίας – φωλιασμένο ανάμεσα στους ουρανοξύστες του Midtown – σε ένα πρόσφατο επεισόδιο του podcast «Other People’s Lives».

Σε αντίθεση με άλλα παρόμοια κλαμπ, τα οποία βραβεύουν την αποκλειστικότητα και την ατμόσφαιρα μόνο για ζευγάρια και γυναίκες, αυτή η ταραχώδης ανάπαυλα είναι μια σχετικά ελεύθερη για όλους, επιτρέποντας σε όποιον ανύπαντρο μπορεί να βρει το δρόμο για το κλαμπ να εισέλθει έναντι αμοιβής. Και, ναι, είναι δημοφιλές στις Aρχές επιβολής του νόμου. «Είναι αστείο, γιατί θα αφήσουν τους θαμώνες να ξέρουν ότι είναι αστυνομικοί», είπε. «Ο ιδιοκτήτης λέει: «Προσφέρουν στην δουλειά επειδή λένε στους άλλους φίλους τους αστυνομικούς ότι μπορούν να έρθουν εδώ και να περάσουν καλά».

Αλλά η αποδοχή ανδρών χωρίς σύντροφο έχει μειονεκτήματα. Η μπαργούμαν, η οποία ως επί το πλείστον σερβίρει τόπλες σημείωσε ότι οι άντρες ξεφεύγουν «όλη την ώρα», ειδικά τις μέρες που «είναι μόνο μάγκες στο κτίριο όλη τη νύχτα». Η ίδια είπε πως οι πελάτες αυτοσχεδιάζουν – και μέρος της δουλειάς της είναι να το εκτινάξει… «Πρέπει να φοράω προκλητικά ρούχα και να είμαι τόπλες για ένα μέρος της νύχτας», εξήγησε, προσθέτοντας ότι κάποιοι πελάτες θα σταθούν δίπλα της στο μπαρ και για να απολαύσουν το θέαμα. «Αυτό είναι μέρος της γοητείας, είναι ότι έχετε να κάνετε με όλους αυτούς τους άντρες με μεγάλες… γραβάτες», είπε, προσθέτοντας ότι τους λέει να βάλουν μερικά μετρητά …«τουλάχιστον» στο βάζο με φιλοδώρημα ή θα βγουν χαμένοι. Ορισμένοι πελάτες, σημείωσε, θα κάνουν σεξ στο μπαρ ενώ την κοιτάζουν. Ωστόσο, εάν θέλει ποτέ να συμμετάσχει στην αγαπημένη διασκέδαση, της επιτρέπεται μόνο ένα διάλειμμα 15 λεπτών για να απολαύσει – αν και σπάνια το κάνει. Οι άντρες ωστόσο, είναι τυχεροί «σε κάθε βάρδια». «Έχουμε χαριτωμένους φρουρούς ασφαλείας», είπε. «Όλες οι γυναίκες που έρχονται λένε, «Ωχ, η ασφάλεια..!».

Λίγα βήματα από τα επιβλητικά εταιρικά γραφεία της γειτονιάς, το σεξ κλαμπ έχει ερωτική τέχνη στους τοίχους, στρώματα σκορπισμένα στον χώρο και έναν «πορτιέρη» ή κάποιον που καθαρίζει τα χάλια όσων μένουν πίσω. «Βασικά απλώς τρέχει πίσω από τους ανθρώπους και βγάζει αμέσως τα σεντόνια από το κρεβάτι, βάζει ένα νέο σεντόνι, καθαρίζει προφυλακτικά, σφουγγαρίζει το πάτωμα», εξήγησε η μπαργούμαν. Αλλά η ατμόσφαιρα δεν είναι αρκετή για να φτιάξει τη διάθεση σε μερικά ντροπαλά ζευγάρια – κάποια βράδια, είπε, νιώθουν σαν το γυμνάσιο.

«Αν υπάρχουν πολλοί άνθρωποι που δεν είναι έμπειροι ή δεν αισθάνονται άνετα, καθώς είναι η πρώτη τους φορά – που είναι συχνά – είναι κάπως σαν χορός Λυκείου», συνέχισε. «Όλοι κάθονται τριγύρω. Απλά κάθονται…», μεταδίδει η New York Post.

Σε τέτοιες περιπτώσεις, ο ιδιοκτήτης του κλαμπ “επανορθώνει” γρήγορα την αμηχανία, φτάνοντας με την κοπέλα του, όπου ξεκινούν το… πάρτι. «Θέλουν να δουν κάποιον να αρχίζει να χορεύει», είπε. «Και τότε όλοι αρχίζουν να …χορεύουν» είπε.

The dating app glossary: The A to Z of terms you need to know. Source: Rae White for mashable.com

Ηρακλής Α. Σίμος Sex 30 Δεκέμβριος 2023

Putting together Asexual

Asexuality is a sexual identity in which people do not experience sexual attraction or desires in a traditional sense. There’s diversity in the way they desire or experience relationships, emotional attraction and arousal while others are also aromantic, or don’t experience romantic feelings, as well. "Ace" and "aspec" are all-encompassing terms for those on the asexual spectrum.

BDSM

BDSM is an acronym for bondage and discipline, domination and submission, and sadism and masochism and refers to consensual power dynamics, role-playing, and sexual activities involving physical and/or psychological elements of control, restraint, and sensation.

Beige flags

A beige flag is a characteristic or behavior that is noticeable but shouldn’t be cause for concern as it’s typically regarded as boring or generic. In terms of dating app bios specifically, this could include listing a love for tacos or fluency in sarcasm as something interesting about you.

Benching

Benching is typically the action that lands people in situationships. You like them enough to keep in contact inconsistently and maybe date casually, but you’re benching them because you won’t commit. They’re on the bench because they are not in the starting line-up.

Bisexual

Bisexual is a sexual identity that refers to individuals that have the potential to have romantic and sexual feelings for members of their gender as well as other genders.

Bi-curious

Bi-curiousity refers to people that are exploring their attraction to members of their gender as well as other genders.

Bot

Dating app bots are chatbots coded to have humanlike exchanges with users they match with. Unlike fake accounts with a human behind them, a bot’s account is actually run by a computer program.

Bottom

A label largely used in the LGBTQ+ community, bottom is typically the partner being penetrated.

Breadcrumbing

Breadcrumbing is when someone is engaging with you enough to seem interested, kind of. They’ll do things like ambiguously be a little flirty over text and maybe always like your IG stories, but they’re ultimately stringing you along for no reason at all.

Cis or cisgender

Cis or cisgender defines someone who identifies with the gender they were assigned at birth.

Cuffing season

Cuffing season refers to the colder months of the year when single people are looking to temporarily settle down for short term partnerships.

Curve

Curve is a verb and it means to reject someone. It typically is done in an indirect or more passive way.

Dates

Interestingly, while there are plenty of people looking for "nothing serious," only men taller than 6' or a third for their polycule, some people are looking for good old fashioned dates. Dinner and movie, picnic in the park, run-of-the-mill time spent getting to know potential romantic interests.

Demisexual

Demisexual is a sexual identity where individuals are only sexually attracted to people they’ve formed a strong emotional connection with.

Dom or dominant

The dom in a BDSM sexual encounter is the aggressor, the controller or the one with the power and typically defines the roles between themselves and the submissive.

Dry dating

Also known as sober dating, drying dating is dating without alcohol. Bumble reported that 34 percent of their users are less likely to drink on a date than they were prior to the pandemic.

DTR

Short for "define the relationship," a DTR is a check-in or chat about the status of the relationship. Someone may ask "what are we" during this conversation, but it’s really a great opportunity to see if expectations are aligned.

ENM or ethically non-monogamous

ENM is the acronym for ethically non-monogamous or consensual non-monogamy (CNM), and it’s approach to relationships that allows individuals to participate in multiple romantic or sexual connections where all parties are aware and consenting.

Fraysexual

A sexual orientation on the asexual spectrum, they are sexually attracted to people they don’t know that well and lose that interest as they get to know someone more deeply. They’re more turned on by the idea of you than actually knowing you.

FWB

FWB stands for friend with benefits and refers to friends that have sex. Their connection is typically more friendship-like rather than that of a romantic, committed relationship. This can be the outcome of a DTR.

Genderfluid

Individuals whose gender identity can fluctuate between genders or a lack thereof at different times independently of their assigned sex at birth are genderfluid.

GGG

Coined by the sex advice columnist Dan Savage, GGG is short for good, giving, and game and defines the qualities of an excellent sexual partner — good in bed, giving "equal time and pleasure," and game for exploring and being open-minded.

Ghosting

An age old dating nightmare, ghosting is when someone abruptly cuts off all communication with someone they’re romantically or intimately connected to without any explanation or warning – radio silence.

Green flags

A green flag refers to positive and attractive characteristics or behaviors a potential partner has. Some examples of green flags are being a good communicator, being respectful of others and having other healthy consistent non-romantic relationships.

Green dating

Green dating is the trend of people dating others who prioritize shared values around eco-consciousness with each other.

Ick

The ick is the knee jerk reaction of being immediately turned off by an action or behavior of someone you are (or were) interested in or dating. Common examples include the way someone eats or even the way people use the voice note feature on dating apps.

Love bombing

Love bombing is when someone overwhelms you with excessive loving attention and displays of affection in order to later heavily influence or manipulate you.

Nonbinary

NB or enby are short for nonbinary which is a gender identity for those who don’t identify within the traditional binary understanding of gender.

ONS

Not to be confused with the Office For National Statistics in the UK, ONS is also known as a one night stand and is typically listed on someone’s bio who is just trying to hook up once.

Open relationship

While the parameters may differ from relationship to relationship, when someone lists they are in an open relationship on a dating app this means that they are in a relationship that permits them to be romantically or sexually involved with others outside of it.

Pansexual

Pansexual individuals experience attraction to others regardless of their gender identity.

Polyamory

Polyamory is when people have simultaneous romantic or sexual relationships with the consent of all parties, and it’s a type of ethically non-monogamous dating.

Queer

Queer is an inclusive term describing diverse sexual orientations and gender identities outside of the traditional heterosexuality and cisgender norms.

Red flag

Red flags are glaring behaviors or characteristics that are a warning sign for larger problems down the road or misalignment within the relationship and should prompt a complete reconsideration of the relationship. Major red flags include someone being physically aggressive, gaslighting, verbal abuse (even if it’s in the context of a joke) and a lack of respect for your personhood or boundaries.

Rizz

Formerly known as game, rizz is flirting or the ability to be charming to bag or attract someone you’re interested in.

Sapiosexual

Sapiosexual people are sexually attracted to or turned on by intelligence.

Sensual

If you see sensual on a dating app, that means that they are particularly into giving and receiving pleasure specifically to stimulate the senses.

Situationship

A situationship is an undefined romantic and sexual relationship where there isn’t much clarity around boundaries, relationship status or commitment.

Sneaky link

When used as a noun, sneaky link refers to the person you’re secretly having sex with. When used as a verb it’s the act of going to secretly have sex with someone.

Sub/Submissive

The sub in a BDSM sexual encounter finds relinquishing of power and control to another or the dom pleasurable.

Switch

A switch in a BDSM sexual encounter enjoys being in both dominant and submissive roles.

Talking stage

The talking stage is the precursor to "dating." The purpose is to get to know someone before any type of romantic labels or progression of the relationship.

Top

Typically a label in the LGBTQ+ community, top is a label indicating that the person is the partner penetrating.

Transgender

Transgender refers to those whose gender identity differs from the sex they were assigned at birth. This often leads to a social, medical, or legal transition process to align with their affirmed gender.

Vers

Vers is a label for someone that likes to be in both the top and bottom roles.

Yellow flags

Yellow flags are behaviors or patterns that should be taken into account, and they should make you use a little caution or perhaps take a little more time to assess the relationship. An example of this would be someone that often talks about exes or former partners as if they are all crazy and with little acknowledgement of their role in the relationships.

Zombieing

Also known as haunting or orbiting, zombieing is when an old dating app match or former fling who essentially disappeared from your life with no explanation (or ghosted you) pops back up. This usually happens over text or DM.